Dj reader on playing Sunday

[KillerGoose]

(01-05-2023, 09:22 AM)Sled21 Wrote: It is what it is and your name calling bothers me not one bit. Personally, I'm glad I became an "insensitive prick" because it allowed me to continue to function, do my job and help people instead of crawling into a fetal position and shutting down emotionally and helping no one. And yes, everyone handles things differently, you can be mentally and emotionally tough or you can be mentally and emotionally soft. And physical size has nothing to do with it.

I think Murdock's comment was off base. You're not an insensitive prick. I would venture to say that you developed that way as a coping mechanism. You had no other choice than to continue doing your job. You didn't have the ability to mourn and process in a healthy manner because someone else's life could be on the line in the next 30 minutes. I've heard about tenured doctors saying that "a death becomes another number at some point". I'm not sure how true it is, but someone who sees death and tragedy often probably develops this way out of necessity. 

I also don't think it is fair to call them soft. Not everyone has that coping mechanism. If you and I were out and about and we came across a tragic scene, maybe a horrific car accident, it would probably really affect me but you may not bat an eye. I've never seen anything like that in person - you have. I just haven't learned how to process it, but I would argue that it doesn't make me a soft person. Calling them "soft" may be insensitive, but I don't think you're doing it out of malice. Your experiences have shifted your perspective and hardened you. You have different expectations, but there are cases where those expectations may be too harsh or unrealistic.