Remember The Judge That Screwed My Family?

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(06-16-2016, 12:03 AM)BFritz21 Wrote: They didn't know my family.  I made sure to ask unbiased people.

Why didn't it work for a similar ruling if it was a good ruling?

Even the driver admitted to me that it was a bullshit ruling and, in the same message, told me that his dad paid many people off.  I hadn't even mentioned anything about paying anyone off, but he brought it up when we were discussing the ruling.  So, if even he admits the ruling was bad an offered that as a possible reason why he would make the ruling because it was, in fact, so bad, don't you think that it probably was a bad ruling?

Furthermore, parents are responsible for their kids' actions until they turn 18, so claiming that this kid was an angel and could raise no red flags to his parents, when they had caught him drinking and he had driven back there, coupled with the facts that he was a loose cannon who loved to fight and never showed any respect for his parents, they should have at least shown an ounce of supervision.  


And about Fred, it's not an expert opinion when he just ignores facts and posts false information, which he has done numerous times, not just in this thread and not just about law things.

Brad, I am going to ask you to think about a couple of things. I'm not mocking, I'm not teasing, I am humbly suggesting things I think would be good for you to do some serious thinking about for quite a while.

1. You are clearly a sports fan. Ever notice how after most games there are people bitching about how their team got screwed and didn't deserve to lose? Court cases are a lot like that - someone wins, someone loses, and the losing side usually doesn't think they deserved to lose. But in every case, like in every game, someone loses. I imagine when you played football your coaches tried to tell you to put a loss behind you and focus on the next game. That might be a good goal with regard to this court loss, and any loss, even though this particular one was a big court case and was like a team losing a "big game" in sports.

2. You are clearly a sports fan. Ever notice how most fans "know" more than the coaches? Every decision every coach makes on our beloved Bengals team - from Coach Lewis' decisions down to the decisions of the coaching interns - is questioned by someone who "knows" the coach is wrong. It is the same with every team from Little League up to the pros. There is a similar thing with judges. Every ruling they make, from the little ones all the way up to the final decision on the case, someone thinks it is wrong. But the coach is the coach and the judge is the judge and that is just how it is. So, again, at some level you have to accept the coach is the coach and the judge is the judge and they do make the decisions.

3. (And this is the most important one - you can ignore one and two if you need to  - but seriously, I believe this is important.)
You are clearly someone who cares about other people. I know this because of your public speaking. You wouldn't go around and talk to students about your wreck if you didn't care about trying to protect others from such a tragic outcome. This has earned you some very deserved respect. It has to be difficult to talk about this tragedy, and at some level relive all the pain, suffering, and sadness it has caused you. You endure that difficulty, because you care about other people, and that is really commendable, and really cool. But, I wonder if you have ever thought about what happened to you from the perspective of some other people. First, the driver of the car. You have talked about how messed up he is, but have you thought about why? Part of it has to be he has to feel tremendous survivor's guilt. If you don't know much about that I am sure you can find plenty to read about it. As guilty as he feels, his own parents and your parents have to feel guilty as well. Both sets of parents must think often about what they could have done to avoid this tragedy for both you and your friend who was the driver. I would encourage you to try to think about how your friend the driver must feel about his mistakes and your injuries, how his parents must feel, and how your parents must feel. Don't think about what they have said and done, think about the emotions you, or someone else would experience, looking at what they had caused and/or allowed to happen to you. As difficult as this tragedy has been for you, these other people carry tremendous burdens from it as well. I think considering their perspectives and their emotions would be helpful for you.

4. I am separating this out from 3 because I really think 3 is the most important thing you can do, but after a lot of contemplation - a whole lot - if you have found some understanding of how this has effected these other people and have some compassion for them, then you might want to try to come back and tackle item 4 and do the same thing for the judge. I am not president of the Judge Greg Bartlett fan club. But imagine how it feels to sit above a roomful of people and look at you (a "tree" or a "cripple" as you call yourself) and a boy who caused you to be that way who must be emotionally just as much of a "tree" or "cripple" as you are physically, and then trying to find "justice," trying to "make it right." It can't be easy. Is being a judge as hard as the challenges you face - things like learning to walk and even run again? Hell no. But being a judge in a case like yours would be pretty damned challenging. Try to look at all the people in the case - not just you and your family - from the perspective of the judge. Or maybe read about some other difficult cases, and think about how tough it must be to find justice when there is no real justice to be found since one boy is physically and the other is emotionally crippled for life and that is all that really matters. Maybe you will find compassion for the judge one day, but first I would suggest focusing on the driver, his parents, and your parents, and trying to see things through their eyes.

Best to you, Brad.