03-06-2017, 06:29 PM
(03-06-2017, 12:26 PM)fredtoast Wrote: That is where I had a problem. I have always had a rule about disciplin with my children. I feel that whenever i demand they do something I should be able to give them some explanation other than "Because I say so." I feel that stuff like that is what causes kids to not respect authority. They don't see it as something being done for their own good. Instead they see it as just an abuse of power.
This is where I believe you are going to get opinions differing from yours. I do not feel the need to explain to my kid why they should follow my commands. Call me old fashion or whatever but they need to respect me and trust that no matter what I'm asking of them I do it for a good reason. One example is for safety reasons. If they are in a dangerous situation and their safety is in jeopardy if they do not comply immediately and instead question why every time they could get hurt. If later after complying they ask why I have no problem explaining. Having a 9 and 7 year old I get questioned all the time why I ask them to do or not do certain things. We still have teachable moments where as a result of not listening to myself or my wife bad things happen, people hurt, stuff gets broken.
In your situation you could have asked her to stop as there were obvious visual cues that the helium was effecting them in ways that you were unsure whether or not they were harmful to her health. She may have or have not liked your reasoning but she needs to respect that it's coming from you.
