Grown man vs recent teen. My take on the Character issue & Pac Man spin by management

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(04-04-2017, 01:12 PM)Shake n Blake Wrote: I was reading Daugherty's recent piece on Mike Brown not drawing any lines, and it got me thinking.

Is Mike's constant forgiveness to players like Pacman really good in any way?

It certainly doesn't help the team or the perception of it or the city. But I'd also argue that it doesn't help the person he's being lenient with.

Sometimes people need a wake up call.

It is an issue of controversy.  Rogerian unconditional positive regard versus tough love.  Mike Brown uses unconditional positive regard and does not judge the person but this isn't necessarily condone their behavior either.  Sometimes the person's behavior and the person's identity are one and the same.  

The the inadvertent consequence of unconditional positive regard can be creating apathy or decreasing motivation the change.  Making reoccurring mistakes is one thing nevertheless if it's part of a  person's character it's another.  Some might say it's hard to distinguish between the two.  

The Cincinnati Bengals overall message from the front office to players and coaches is "forgiveness."

This modus operandi it's not a good mix for players with questionable character and inept coaches.