Re: Raising proper girls

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http://www.usatoday.com/story/life/2015/08/24/raise-them-breathe-fire-post-anna-duggar-goes-viral/32268713/

Quote:A local mother promising to raise her girls "to think they breathe fire" is flooding newsfeeds of women across the country.

"I just couldn't stop thinking about Anna," Jessica Kirkland told 11Alive's Julie Wolfe.

Anna is in the wife of Josh Duggar, former star of TLC's 19 Kids and Counting. After admitting to molesting underage girls, he called himself "the biggest hypocrite ever" when his name came out in the Ashley Madison hack. In an open letter, he told the world he's addicted to pornography and cheated on his wife. Before his downfall, Duggar lobbied for a politically powerful conservative group called the Family Research Council.


"Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife, and a mother. Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go," she wrote. "While she was fulfilling her 'duty' of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and Godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. 'Be this,' they told her. She was. It wasn't enough."

Quote:"We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don't have to marry a man their father deems 'acceptable' and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE," Kirkland said. But it was the final line in that post that has inspired memes, hashtags, and hundreds and thousands of likes: "As for my girls, I'll raise them to think they breathe fire."

"I had a moment thinking, maybe I shouldn't post it," Kirkland told Wolfe. "Being from Georgia, I have a lot of friends and family members who are devout Christians." She said she didn't intend the post to attack Christianity, but to fight the idea that "you need to be a certain way in order to meet a standard your community demands of you."


Kirkland said she's received thousands of notes from daughters thanking their mothers, and moms vowing to raise their daughter to "think they breathe fire."

"I hope the message stands alone," she said. "I want girls to know their worth and accept nothing less."

Here is her Facebook post:

Quote:I know everybody is laughing about this Josh Duggar story. Oh, a DUGGAR on Ashley Madison, it's so rich! I wish more people would talk about Anna. I normally keep things light on Facebook, but let's talk about Anna. Let me tell you: Anna Duggar is in the worst position she could possibly be in right now. Anna Duggar was crippled by her parents by receiving no education, having no work experience (or life experience, for that matter) and then was shackled to this loser because his family was famous in their religious circle. Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife, and a mother. Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go and this is what she got in reward- a husband who she found out, in the span of 6 months, not only molested his own sisters, but was unfaithful to her in the most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her "duty" of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and Godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. "Be this," they told her. She was. It wasn't enough.

What is Anna Duggar supposed to do? She can't divorce because the religious environment she was brought up would blame her and ostracize her for it. Even if she would risk that, she has no education and no work experience to fall back on, so how does she support her kids? From where could she summon the ability to turn her back on everything she ever held to be sacred and safe? Her beliefs, the very thing she would turn to for comfort in this kind of crisis, are the VERY REASON she is in this predicament in the first place. How can she reconcile this? Her parents have utterly, utterly failed her. Think of this: somewhere, Anna Duggar is sitting in prayer, praying not for the strength to get out and stand on her own, but for the strength to stand by this man she is unfortunately married to. To lower herself so that he may rise up on her back.

As a mother of daughters, this makes me ill. Parents, WE MUST DO BETTER BY OUR DAUGHTERS. Boys, men, are born with power. Girls have to command it for themselves. They aren't given it. They assume it and take it. But you have to teach them to do it, that they can do it. We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don't have to marry a man their father deems "acceptable" and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE. Educate them. Empower them. Give them the tools they need to survive, on their own if they must. Josh Duggar should be cowering in fear of Anna Duggar right now. Cowering. He isn't, but he should be. He should be quaking in fear that the house might fall down around them if he's in the same room as she. Please, instill your daughters with the resolve to make a man cower if he must. To say "I don't deserve this, and my children don't deserve this." I wish someone had ever, just once, told Anna she was capable of this. That she knew she is. As for my girls, I'll raise them to think they breathe fire.