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(05-11-2018, 09:40 AM)Belsnickel Wrote: I'm going to make this a more general statement than directing it at one post, but I've been ruminating on this term "consensual relationship." I think I understand what is being implied by this term, but it is being used erroneously. Being in a relationship doesn't imply consent to anything other than being in a relationship. This idea that being in a relationship implies consent to sexual acts and that consent must be revoked is very problematic and, while I'm sure there will be jeers at this term, is a product of a rape culture. This is part of the conversation that we, as a society, are having these days surround the idea of sexual assault and consent and how these things play out. Being in a relationship allows for foundation of communication that better facilitates conversation surrounding consent and what each party is up for and how consent is going to be communicated in the heat of the moment, but the relationship itself does not mean consent is there.

Personally I have never considered the term to mean "anything in the relationship is good to go".  

"Consensual" to me had meant individual acts above and beyond being in the relationship.

1) You want your partner wearing diapers and getting spanked?  As long as your partner says it's ok then it's ok with me too.

2) You want to never put the lid on the toothpaste?  Your partner doesn't have to consent to that, but might not like it anyway.

One directly affects the well being of another person and is acted upon them...that needs consent. 

So I agree that simply being in a relationship is not consent for any and all actions against you within that relationship.  That kind of thinking is went out with the "wife better do as she told" mentality of past generations...I hope.

Side note:  None of that covers randomly grabbing people on the street as was suggested.