The InCel movement

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(06-13-2018, 04:17 PM)Wyche Wrote: Well, that always worked too, but then there are the pass out times, the times they puke, whiskey wiener, etc.  The chicks I hung around with liked to drink and all, but they enjoyed the mellow weed buzz more, I guess.  These aren't shallow, pop culture princess, run of the mill 20 something chicks though, either.  Even the girls we ran around with in high school were a little edgier and would rather fire up a spliff and sip on some beers or bourbon than get shitfaced drunk. 

Nothin' like cruising the backroads, burning a doob, listening to The Dead, and stopping for a little "hike" with a willing lady.

OK you're definitely a greater womanizer than I ever was, I won't pretend otherwise.
I blame the girls :)

(06-13-2018, 04:06 PM)fredtoast Wrote: After the Minassian mass murder earlier this year the media was looking for a person from the InCel community to interview.  One guy stepped forward and was thrust into the spotlight.  He was more level headed than many member.  He blamed himself for being a loser more that turning the hatred towards others.  He said he just joined because he felt like he found a group where he belonged and was understood.

The funny thing was that the act of meeting all of these intelligent journalist (many of who were women) showed him that everyone did not hate him.  Many of them were sympathetic instead of insulting.  So he came out of his shell and decided to leave the InCel community.  He joined some online dating service and was going out with real women.  The guy was not fat or disgusting at all.  He just looked like an average guy.  He just had zero self esteem when he joined in high school and never got out of the rut.

It's kind of a vicious circle. I once witnessed a "coming out" of sorts, for lack of a better word, and all I could think was "don't talk about that, keep that to yourself" because I foresaw the reaction of others. Which wasn't really demeaning at all, just the way this guy was seen changed pretty much forever. Suddenly everyone knew what his problems were, what he did wrong, what he had to do. And of course that poor chap couldn't possibly make a counter-point to all these grandstanding (and often outright silly) advices, for he was the "patient" and everyone of course knew better. Injures pride, that one.
My initial advice of course would have been best :)

Though exact numbers are hard to come by, I've heard an estimated 10-15% of males are afflicted by life-long celibacy, with upward tendency. It's becoming kind of a new normal, and that sure will come with all sorts of problems. It's just, I don't know a solution. Little self-cofidence leads to less chances, which leads to less self-confidence... and there's hardly a way out.
And the mass murder stories probably don't help. Might create an additional stigma, as if these guys were all potentially dangerous.