Couples' therapy.

[hollodero]

(08-22-2018, 11:57 AM)michaelsean Wrote: I did threaten to bomb you.

Fair enough. Alert me when it's starting, I plan to go to an open area and hold a big X over my head. Don't want my neighbors or any others harmed just because I wouldn't love you as a girl and said so. It's my fault, not theirs, and I take responsibility.

(08-22-2018, 11:57 AM)michaelsean Wrote: When I say "about time' I mean saying that to someone else who has changed their position.  Just say good to have you on board.

I still tell folk what I think, and when I think they are dead wrong, then it's what I say. I couldn't behave otherwise and still consider myself respectful. What I think and how I look at things in the first place, my attitude, is the thing that I can change.
E.g. to believe that in theory, someone could make a good point I never considered is a good thought to start a debate. A willingness only a few americans seem to bring to the table in the first place. Because: Quarrel, never admitting the other one was right in anything, all that jazz.
I'm sure helped by the fact that in general I believe others are smarter than me.

(08-22-2018, 11:57 AM)michaelsean Wrote: I'm not always clear on Trump because I'm not always clear myself.  I don't like him as a person, but I'm not going to continually lose my mind either.

To me, that amounts to getting used to the grim. Sure, when he said, just as an example, the media is the enemy of the people the first time, many were shocked. When he called Mueller names the first time, many were struck. When he made distinct anti-Mexican statements the first time, it seemed cringeworthy. Etc. etc. etc.

He does all that a second, third, fourth time? Well, what good is it to lose one's mind over it. One gets used to this stuff.
I think you shouldn't though. It's time to lose one's mind about those things. That's not just about not liking him, it's about more than that.

(08-22-2018, 11:57 AM)michaelsean Wrote: But am I still far more shallow than I want to be?  Yes because I hate the thought of the crazy anti_Trumpers, the ones that have Resist signs in their yards, getting a win.

I thought so. That was a honest statement. Now the next step would be to acknowledge that it's not about them. Not at all. They aren't important, the country is. Being extra stubborn because of some irrelevant folk isn't a wise move, and you know that too. I'd suggest to give that rational thought a little more weight over feelings of annoyance.
But you know that already too. But how will you explain it to some grandchildren later? "Well, you know, sure Trump had scary tendencies, but there was this one guy with his stupid resist sign, so..."