06-28-2020, 03:12 PM
(06-28-2020, 02:48 PM)fredtoast Wrote: I have always been straight. I don't want to pretend to speak for homosexuals or bi-sexuals. But I believe there is a continuum of sexual preferences that covers all sots of different choices..
I had a female friend who was straight for years, then decided she was a lesbian, last time I saw her she was sleeping with guys again, but I don't think she has any strict lines anymore.
My ex-wife was bi-sexual and when we first started dating she talked about bringing other women to bed with us. It never happened, and after we decided to get married it was no longer an option. She dated other men after we divorced, but now she has a female "best friend" that she spends all her time with.
I know I never made a choice to be straight, and I know I could not get sexually aroused thinking about sex with a man even if I wanted to try it. So I assume most other people are also born with a sexual preference somewhere along the continuum, and people who seem to "change their mind" are actually just somewhere in the middle to begin with.
While I don't entirely disagree, I will say that I believe there are cases where a person's desires / preferences do indeed change over time, just as any tastes / preferences / desires can change, evolve or become very different during the course of our lives.
I do feel, more often than not, who we are attracted to is something that is innate within us; a baseline, primal desire if you will. As I stated, I have always been attracted to males, just as you have always been attracted to females. We have both followed our natural instincts when it comes to our desires, but that doesn't preclude the possibility that another may experience a change or evolution of their desires that may lead them to a different set of preferences and attractions.
