(02-23-2016, 11:36 AM)Belsnickel Wrote: 1.) I wouldn't worry about it too much. I stew over petty bullshit all the time and it's not exactly the healthiest thing. 2.) If anything, approach the guy at some point and apologize for the music thing again, give him your number if you are comfortable with it, and tell him to give you a call if it happens again. You being nice about it may change his perception of you, because I know that when I put up with some of the people in my building and their music I just automatically assume they're assholes and have a desire to respond in kind.

(02-23-2016, 04:12 PM)Wes Mantooth Wrote: 1.) You're right.  I've already given this way too much thought.  Although I think that only says even more that I am mindful of the thoughts of others and how actions are perceived.  Me feeling like I put someone else out caught me totally by surprise.  The last thing I would ever want to do is be that neighbor.

(02-23-2016, 04:20 PM)McC Wrote: If he's like this at 25, what's he gonna be like at 60? Like somebody else said, get off my lawn.

(02-23-2016, 04:24 PM)Belsnickel Wrote: My wife tells me that all the time. I've been a "get off my lawn" type for a long time already, and I'm just 30.

(02-23-2016, 04:12 PM)Wes Mantooth Wrote: 1.) You're right.  I've already given this way too much thought.  Although I think that only says even more that I am mindful of the thoughts of others and how actions are perceived.  Me feeling like I put someone else out caught me totally by surprise.  The last thing I would ever want to do is be that neighbor.

2.) I've thought about this and a few people have said something similarly.  I'm just going to leave it alone and not say anything unless he approaches me.  I apologized last night and I'm not sure I can bring it up again without coming across and as snarky or upset.  If he wants to clear the air or whatever I'm cool with it.  No biggie, but I feel if any apology is to be made at this point it needs to come from him.

(02-23-2016, 03:58 PM)Wes Mantooth Wrote: This is a picture of the soundbar used in my grand setup



It does have a subwoofer, but it's on the other side of the room and I had set it to 2 (out of 5).  I think I had the soundbar around 5 or 6 out of 10.  Oh, and it faces away from his house.

(02-23-2016, 04:34 PM)McC Wrote: This is called not being an asshole.  It's the only way to be.

(02-23-2016, 04:31 PM)McC Wrote: It is true that sometimes a prick mellows with age and there are sweethearts who get cranky with age so there's no guarantee either way.  Usually there's a woman around to do the mellowing and the getting cranky often has to do with not having one around. 

I have faith in your wife.  As a wife, if she sees this, it is her sworn duty to fix it or she gets thrown out of the club.  You, of course, are well aware of this.

(02-23-2016, 04:23 PM)Belsnickel Wrote: I'm like that. There are lots of things I avoid doing in my apartment because I think someone might be bothered by it. I take a very German attitude to noise, though. Big fan of the concept of Ruhezeit (silent time) or Nachtruhe (night silence). This is why I've told my wife that when we get a house, we have to find somewhere without a lot of neighbors around.

(02-23-2016, 03:55 PM)Wes Mantooth Wrote: It's a guy and his sister, both of which are in their mid to late twenties.

(02-24-2016, 12:37 AM)Rainbow stiller Wrote: Hit on him. I've learned that one of two things will happen

1 they will avoid you
Or 2 you will get laid.

Either way you win.

(02-24-2016, 01:02 AM)Wes Mantooth Wrote: What if I just went over to his house and did this?

(02-24-2016, 01:44 AM)Bengalzona Wrote: If you are passive-aggressive, you could always just impregnate his sister.

Then tell him, "How about dem apples!"  

(02-23-2016, 03:55 PM)Wes Mantooth Wrote: No kids.  It's a guy and his sister, both of which are in their mid to late twenties.