05-08-2024, 09:28 PM
(05-08-2024, 05:06 AM)IcoHolic Wrote: (1) There's the get drunk in Nashville and get a butterfly tattoo... there could be a higher risk of regret for that life choice in the future.
(2)Then there's the sociocultural, spiritual, communicative, artistic and other expressions that people find comfort in.
(2A) Being grossed out by a woman expressing herself by getting a tattoo is a problem with the person making the judgement, that person views others superficially. That in itself is pretty awful... it's sad that it has always existed, does exist and will likely exist forever. Everyone has a story, and those stories are way more important than anything else about that person.
(3) From a mental health angle. I know a young lady that has struggled with things like BPD, PTSD.... a lot of self harm such as cutting. Her story is awful, and not her fault. The tattoos on her wrists/forearms cover those cuts... she took something awful that beat her down and put her vision of beauty over them. The marks are still there, but she now she sees something else, she feels something else.
(4) People are going to judge her, or be grossed out by her? That says something about the person making the judgement. What's their story? What made that prejudice, why do they embrace it? They weren't born with it.
(5) You're only hurting yourself with superficial judgements, as they may prevent you from connecting with another human that will have a positive impact on your life. Why do that to yourself?
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… Just 'cause you don't understand what's going on
Don't mean it don't make no sense
And just 'cause you don't like it, don't mean it ain't no good
And let me tell you something
Before you go taking a walk in my world
You better take a look at the real world
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- Mike Muir
1. Could be? I've seen multiple survays on the subject, and anywhere from 20-75 percent of people who get tatoos regret getting them some time later: The Statistics Surrounding Tattoo Regret and How to Avoid It | Advanced Dermatology (advdermatology.com)
2. You open yourself up to "superficial judgement" the moment you decide to make superficial alterations to your natural body, especially if the deeper meaning that a tatooo is supposed to convey isn't apparent to the people that see it. Honestly, i'm being pretty generous when I assume most tattoo getters are just being "artistic". In most cases, the people who get the tattoos aren't doing the art themselves. They're offering their bodies as a canvas for an actual artist to create something for them, with a prayer that they like how it turns out. Putting people who get tattoos in the same category as people who actually create something with their creativity is disrespectful to the latter, in my opinion.
3. This really isn't the out that you think it is. "I committed self-harm to cover up scars from when I committed even worse self-harm" just replaces one red flag with an even bigger one. Now, granted, everyone has their struggles and i'll always feel for trauma victims; but that doesn't mean that i'm not going to be cautious or weary around them either. I'm certainly going to be cautious when it comes to forming a friendship or relationship with them until I see that their past has been adquetly dealt with.
People who are victims are trauma more often than not transfer that trauma on to others when their trauma goes unchecked, and it takes more than covering your body with ink to deal with it.
4. I don't think "No, you" is an actual retort.
5. No one is saying to treat people who get tatoos like they're lepers. People go on to form relationships with people that they have a bad first impression of all the time.
