Parenting and Lying

[StLucieBengal]

(04-26-2016, 12:27 AM)UVas Deferens Wrote: I know a lot of people whose parents didn't trust them growing up.   Most of them were shitty people who didn't have a real relationship with their kids or the interpersonal skills to have a genuine conversation with them and relied on fables and antiquated bullshit.  One of those kids just got a fees years for chasing the dragon.  I always thought it was more about the parents self evaluation than that of the child tbh. 

You're going to do whatever you want lucie. While I'm certain you love them, I think you should be more open minded and flexible about your parenting style and relationship with them than you are with other aspects of life.  Last thing you want to do is loose a loved one for the sake of pride. 

You are drawing a connection between a relationship with your kids being similar to a relationship with a friend.   It's not the same.  And it's not about trust.... Ita about setting a standard.    

Now on self evaluation of parents ....  That's seperate because my parenting plan isn't the same as my personal plan.    You always make sure you are staying on track in any plan.    But the focus is different and takes a different style of self evaluation.   

I am a lot more open minded than you think.   Just because I have access to their stuff doesn't mean I am focusing on it daily.     

kids respect firm parenting.