05-11-2016, 12:10 PM
(05-11-2016, 10:49 AM)BFritz21 Wrote: Show me another place with roads that narrow and dark. Show me another road with things filled with headstones that we could have clipped and trees that close to the road.
The driver had under a beer before we got to the cemetery. He was also speeding back there because there were no cops and no other cars. Given that and the above sentences, no, we could have not wrecked anywhere.
He also created an atmosphere where this kind of behavior was accepted and even encouraged.
We were also 15, and not all 15-year-olds act like that, but there's a reason of why adults have control until kids are 18. In fact, the human brain isn't even fully developed until a person is in their 20s (24 I think is the average), meaning that kids don't make good decisions, which is why adults have control.
No one was telling me I'm the victim and I've never had that mentality.
I was also not on a bad path.
Like you said and I said above, we all make mistakes as teens, so having an adult promote this kind of activity was just setting up for something bad to happen.
Brad, a lot of years have passed since your accident. You're an adult now and have been for awhile. Maybe it's time you just said "You know what...no one held a gun to my head and made me go drink and party in a cemetery. No one forced me to take part in anything that the caretaker was doing. And, no one made me get in the car that eventually wrecked. Even though I was a teenager and made poor decisions...it was still ME that made those decisions".
What I'm getting at brother, is that it's probably way past time to just accept your own (and pretty significant) responsibility. While others may have 'promoted an environment' that permitted these things to go on, you kept returning to that environment of your own accord. It's true that teenagers do stupid things and and sometimes make poor decisions. But, when those decisions lead to something bad happening (in a situation that YOU put yourself in)...then eventually you're going to have to own those bad decisions and poor choices.
I'm not condemning you Brad, just trying to offer some advice. Just accept the fact that you are as much to blame as anyone for what happened. If you've been through the courts and ended up with some cash, then I say you did OK. The best thing you can do is quit rehashing the past and just concentrate on much more productive uses of your time and energy...like your public speaking and trying to get other kids to not make those same bad choices.
