10-04-2016, 03:55 AM
24 is way too young to have to lose a parent. I've very sorry to hear that. Fwiw, I lost my mother at 27 so I can sympathize with you.
I can't, or won't, say that everyone is the same at that age (mid-20's), but for me personally my mid-20's were a whirlwind of emotions, which I think can cause most of us some stress or unease.
People say that you see much more change in your earlier years, what with each advancing grade, new schools, new friends, first this, first that. But it's all rather planned out. You kind of you just move along at a similar pace to everyone else. And then there's college, and even though there's all of this newfound freedom, you're still kind of marching along to a plan. And even after college, a lot of people are still partying, still hanging out with the same people, there's not a ton of stress.
Then, like the sneaky bastard it is, your older age (you're getting older, but not old) starts rearing it's ugly head. A few people get married, some even pop out a kid. Some have serious girlfriends, some are single. Some have their own place, some are still at home. Some may even have bought a house. Some people have found their career, some have no clue what they want to do. Some people move, some friends lose touch. The list goes on and on...\
The point of all of this is just to show how much is going on at that age. IMO, it's the first time in your life you finally see the people you grew up with, the people of your age, start to go in their own direction. Gone are the days of everyone marching along from grade 8 to 9, or to their drivers liscense , or off to college. Everyone is doing different things, at their own pace. That in and of itself is an incredibly scary, and can be a pretty depressing thing.
I think a lot of people's friends list starts to dwindle at that age. And unfortunately, as you get even older don't be surprised to see your circle shrink further.
I wish I had some great advice, but I really don't. I'm just pointing out the being the age your at now can be all sorts of messed up. And couple that with losing a parent and I'd imagine it can be tough. Hell, I know it can. I guess the best advice I could give is to do your best to find something you really enjoy doing. And maybe you already have. Because that daily grind of work can wear on you. It's important to have something to look forward to once you clocked out for the day. That, and make a point to keep in touch with a few friends if you can.
I can't, or won't, say that everyone is the same at that age (mid-20's), but for me personally my mid-20's were a whirlwind of emotions, which I think can cause most of us some stress or unease.
People say that you see much more change in your earlier years, what with each advancing grade, new schools, new friends, first this, first that. But it's all rather planned out. You kind of you just move along at a similar pace to everyone else. And then there's college, and even though there's all of this newfound freedom, you're still kind of marching along to a plan. And even after college, a lot of people are still partying, still hanging out with the same people, there's not a ton of stress.
Then, like the sneaky bastard it is, your older age (you're getting older, but not old) starts rearing it's ugly head. A few people get married, some even pop out a kid. Some have serious girlfriends, some are single. Some have their own place, some are still at home. Some may even have bought a house. Some people have found their career, some have no clue what they want to do. Some people move, some friends lose touch. The list goes on and on...\
The point of all of this is just to show how much is going on at that age. IMO, it's the first time in your life you finally see the people you grew up with, the people of your age, start to go in their own direction. Gone are the days of everyone marching along from grade 8 to 9, or to their drivers liscense , or off to college. Everyone is doing different things, at their own pace. That in and of itself is an incredibly scary, and can be a pretty depressing thing.
I think a lot of people's friends list starts to dwindle at that age. And unfortunately, as you get even older don't be surprised to see your circle shrink further.
I wish I had some great advice, but I really don't. I'm just pointing out the being the age your at now can be all sorts of messed up. And couple that with losing a parent and I'd imagine it can be tough. Hell, I know it can. I guess the best advice I could give is to do your best to find something you really enjoy doing. And maybe you already have. Because that daily grind of work can wear on you. It's important to have something to look forward to once you clocked out for the day. That, and make a point to keep in touch with a few friends if you can.
