Ever Had A Friend Overstay Their Welcome?

[hollodero]

(02-27-2018, 10:44 PM)BFritz21 Wrote: I had no problem with him crashing at my place, but, like I said, I checked tonight and it will be a month on the first that he's been crashing here.

He kind of hinted that he knows it's an inconvenience and asked me if I wanted him out, so I just told him that it's not a problem that he stays but it's just not knowing what's going on and if he has a plan or not.  I even told him about how the timeline kept changing and he's just saying "I know," and asked if he should crash at someone else's place but he was quit to accept my answer when I told him he didn't have to........  he didn't even throw out an "are you sure?"  

He said he's looking at getting this apartment on March 5th, which he had said for a few weeks, but then I threw in "but then when would you move in" and he says "probably in the middle of March," which kind of pissed me off because it's like "oh, but you were going to let me keep believing you were moving out March 5th?"

He's in a bad spot but this is just bullshit.

I was sympathetic to you until that very post. He asks if it's OK and you say "no problem". While at the same time fussing over it on an internet board.

If a friend ever helped me out and assured me it's OK and I found out he was in fact bitterly complaining about it, I'd be hurt and pissed. The one thing friends should do is to be honest with each other, at least when it's an important matter. You, however, refuse to let him know where he stands with you. That's on you. My opinion.

To throw some unnecessary sexism into it - you behave like some women would (how could he not have guessed that it's of course a problem when I said "it's not a problem"?). Be honest with him or suffer in silence.