12-30-2018, 03:48 PM
(12-30-2018, 03:25 PM)Beaker Wrote: Can you tell when your wife is upset with you even if she isnt yelling at you? Isnt her silence and disconnect sometimes a more powerful motivator for you to change than her b!tching at you? Can't her silent disappointment sometimes be a more powerful motivator for you to change your behavior, especially when she witholds her currency (sex)?
Its not always vocal negativity that effects change. And too much of it is toxic for any relationship.
They're both "effective" tools. One is not really demonstrably better than the other.
Emotionally, silence isn't a typical response. It's more of a thought out response. It can also border on apathy in some situations. That being said, apathy could and should be more of a motivator than an emotional response. Good luck to you if you get someone/something back after apathy sets in.
P.S. If your (generally) wife is able to withhold her "currency", then you're (generally) not "selling" her a good enough product.
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