Sometimes a hotline just isn’t enough

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(02-24-2019, 12:39 PM)HarleyDog Wrote: Very sorry to hear this. Struggles are real and each person copes to the best of their abilities, and sometimes a breaking point is reached. It doesn’t mean they’re weak, cowardly, or self absorbed. Sometimes life just goes black and finding your way out is confusing. I lost my son to suicide on 2-20-2008. It was the most trying time in my life. On top of a stressful job and a bad marriage, The loss of my son was too much to bear. Times became dark and confusing. Within 2 weeks I found myself sitting in jail for DUI. Self destructive mode kicked in and there was no stopping it. One pressing thought that I could not shake was that I needed to be with my son. Then, one night my actions were almost identical to your wife’s. After the doctors pumped my stomach and saved my life, I too spent several days in a mental health facility. Twice to be exact, but no need to go further.

It’s a long road back sometimes and important you know this. I’m very sorry for what your family is going through. Your wife can find her brightness again. It just takes time and some treatment. Be encouraged that there is hope and light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck to both of you and if you ever want to pm me, feel free and confident to do so. Take care Griever.

(02-24-2019, 12:57 PM)Griever Wrote: I knew there was gonna be a breaking point, just didn’t know when, and didn’t think it was gonna be a suicide attempt. She’s been saying for the past 5 years that she didn’t know who she was and she didn’t feel like herself. She likened it to her being inside a terra-cotta mood of herself and the vet visit was the snap that broke the pot letting her be herself again after all this time.

She seems like she’s back to how she was before all this started, so while a suicide attempt isn’t ideal, I’m at least glad it helped her get back to the real her and allowed her to finally process everything that has happened

She’s wanting me to go to a therapist so I can discuss and try to work through all this, coming home in the middle of her suicide attempt and going into shock and freaking out when she collapsed. I know I have some issues that I’ve put aside because I’ve focused on just being there for her, so she thinks I’m a few months I should voluntarily check myself in to where she was just to get some help and get some medicine and everything so I can begin working on me as well as helping her work on her

Very sorry to hear this for the both of you.  I'm very glad you got home in time Griever, and that you were able to get the help you needed Harley.

Sometimes people keep things too bottled up inside for too long and there is an event (sometimes very menial) that can trigger an episode like this.  I'm not sure if that is the case here, but talking about things is the best way to go.

I hope that you and her get the help you need, and are able to move forward past this.  You were there in the nick of time for a reason, and that is the best way to look at it in my opinion.  For both of you.