Financial Dilemma

[Stewy]

(04-01-2019, 05:09 PM)fredtoast Wrote: If you had money what would you rather do than give it to your children?

Take it and be happy.  They are just doing what most parents would do in that same situation.  They know you will get it when they die, so instead they want you to have it to enjoy right now.

If you were broke or struggling I could see you feeling "emasculated" but this is nothing like that.

(04-01-2019, 05:13 PM)WeezyBengal Wrote: Thanks for the honest input. 

That is definitely a good way to look at it...it just feels "wrong" to me for some reason. I will say, I have NEVER asked their family for anything in my life and im proud of that. They have given us plenty of things before (go on vacation every year, pay for dinner, etc) but never have I asked them for anything. 

I agree with Fred. 

My opinion is that I think you're being prideful and NOT thinking about what's best for your family, but what's best for your ego.

A little story.  I went to Miami of Ohio from 1988 to 1992.  At the time it was known as the Notre Dame reject school (maybe still is).  My Freshman class was at least half Catholic, ultra conservative and Republican (Mass Com Department always did Freshman polls).  Almost without exception, these were guys from Ignatius, Xavier, etc. that couldn't get into Notre Dame academically.  However, there was one friend of mine, that got accepted to ND, but his parents couldn't afford it, so he ended up at Miami.

So......save up the money, put it in a College fund, have your daughters entire college paid for ahead of time so she can go wherever she gets into even if you couldn't personally afford it.  One part about being a good parent is about wanting MORE for your kids than you had, not about what you provide being good enough.