My 91 year old dad passed away this morning

[grampahol]

Thanks folks. The thing I realized about my father was he was the most forgiving person I ever knew. I pulled a lot of crap as a kid, some of which he probably never should have forgiven me for, but he always did forgive me. I remember him telling me long ago when I did something really rotten and we'd been in a fist fight that above everything else I was his son and nothing I could ever do would ever change that fact. At the time it didn't mean nearly as much as it does now and now that my own son is doing or was doing some of the same kinds of crap I did I find myself in the same position. My son just got a 2nd DUI and has been drinking far too much. He's endangered not only others lives, but his own life. He's in the position of possibly losing everything he's ever worked for, his relationships with everyone and so on. Today I let him drink a 6 pack of beer at the house and he became a tad belligerent so tomorrow when he sobers up I'm informing him it's not going to be acceptable to drink in my home, period. I put my own family through too much with my drinking and I'll be damned if I let him destroy things the same way. It took me years to overcome my drinking problems, but I did it. He's going to have to do the same. I'll always forgive him, but I won't allow him to destroy his life on my time nor with my money. It's time for him to grow up like it or not. He'll be 40 in a few year. I don't want to bury my son or anyone else before I die from old age or any other reason. If that means cutting him lose to go live through it the hard way like I did then so be it. My father always forgave me, but he wouldn't permit me to drink in his home either. I let my son drink in the house today for the last time. It won't happen again. He just hasn't learned responsibility yet. It's beyond time he does.