05-19-2020, 07:52 PM
(05-19-2020, 05:31 PM)fredtoast Wrote: Incognito was a psycho who hated Martin because he thought he was a homosexual. He never wanted to "toughen him up". Instead he wanted to "break him"
https://www.espn.com/nfl/story/_/id/10455447/miami-dolphins-bullying-report-released-richie-incognito-others-responsible-harassment
Wells said his inquiry found Martin was taunted and ridiculed almost daily. After Martin left the team in October, Incognito boasted about "breaking Jmart" in a notebook the linemen used to tally fines and bonuses among themselves. When the investigation began, Incognito asked another player to destroy the book, but investigators obtained it.
The Wells report also states:
"Nevertheless, although Incognito, Jerry and Pouncey verbally harassed Martin, we find that they did not intend to drive Martin from the team or cause him lasting emotional injury."
They were forced to conclude that because Martin's own texts (and now deleted FB posts) showed he wasn't exactly a saint himself, and he described his relationship with the trio as 'friends'. Early on, he didn't seem to have a problem with the 'culture' --- until he became the focus. Once that happened, all of a sudden, things changed. While I agree that Incognito, Pouncey and Jerry were shit heads and took it too far...Martin didn't seem to have an issue with it happening to other people.
As the Wells report also said:
'According to Incognito, Martin's departure from the Dolphins should be attributed to pre-existing mental health problems, alcohol and drug use and/or concerns about poor performance on the field. Martin has candidly acknowledged wrestling with all of these issues, and his text messages and other evidence demonstrate that these are real factors, not issues Incognito has manufactured out of whole cloth.'
I think his mental health issues and other problems really came to the forefront during the situation, in Martin's own words again:
'I figured out a major source of my anxiety. I'm a push over, a people pleaser. I avoid confrontation whenever I can, I always want everyone to like me. I let people talk about me, say anything to my face, and I just take it, laugh it off, even when I know they are intentionally trying to disrespect me. I mostly blame the soft schools I went to,which fostered within me a feeling that I'm a huge p*ssy.'
'I always wonder why I have these feelings. I'm unbelievably blessed, I am living a dream that I have had my entire life, that most people would die even for the 105 opportunity to be where I am. I have an amazing family, had a great upbringing. Why do I always feel this way? I really am getting increasingly tempted to just get in my car and leave Miami, live by myself for months or a year or two off the grid. But something holds me back every time, because part of me still loves football. But I am losing touch with that part more and more every day.'
This is the same guy who threatened his former high school - who went on lockdown and got a restraining order on him - and who was driving around with weapons in his car. While he may have had to deal with some stupid shit while with the Dolphins, this guy has also had very serious mental issues before and after that experience.