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Many of my friends and relatives have teenage daughters. When they post pictures of them on Facebook I don't feel comfortable commenting on how attractive they are. If I am talking to someone in person I don't have a problem telling them they have a lovely daughter, but for some reason it feels much different posting it on Facebook.
Am I crazy or does anyone else feel this way?
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Not crazy at all. In a world that has seemingly lost it's innocence, the nicest comments or gestures can be taken wrongly. Similarly, I don't post on FB much for that very reason, irregardless of the matter or content. Also, FB is a place jam packed with keyboard warriors who are always lurking to make an attack on anything someone else says.
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(07-25-2020, 01:19 PM)fredtoast Wrote: Many of my friends and relatives have teenage daughters. When they post pictures of them on Facebook I don't feel comfortable commenting on how attractive they are. If I am talking to someone in person I don't have a problem telling them they have a lovely daughter, but for some reason it feels much different posting it on Facebook.
Am I crazy or does anyone else feel this way?
I think you’re phrasing is the problem... “How attractive they are” sounds a little predatory.
In a world where everything gets misconstrued I’d recommend just leaving your friends kids looks out of your conversations. It’s gonna get taken the wrong way by some.
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(07-25-2020, 05:04 PM)GreenCornBengal Wrote: In a world where everything gets misconstrued I’d recommend just leaving your friends kids looks out of your conversations. It’s gonna get taken the wrong way by some.
That is exactly what I do.
I tried about ten different ways of phrasing it the other day, but nothing seemed quite rigth.
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(07-26-2020, 10:04 AM)fredtoast Wrote: That is exactly what I do.
I tried about ten different ways of phrasing it the other day, but nothing seemed quite rigth.
Yep, I understand where you’re coming from, but unfortunately there is no good way in today’s society. Everything is too sexualized that people are going to think you’re up to no good.
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(07-26-2020, 10:04 AM)fredtoast Wrote: That is exactly what I do.
I tried about ten different ways of phrasing it the other day, but nothing seemed quite rigth.
Acceptable: Say nothing.
Not acceptable: Dayum, that's one smokin little hot pocket you got there. When does she turn 18? :paul:
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I imagine its just the nuance of language that is lost when saying something via text rather than via speech.
Writing "you have a lovely daughter" is open to all sorts of interpretation, and one of those interpretations is unfortunately "internet creeper".
The way you intend to say "you have a lovely daughter" would probably just come off as a natural compliment.
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Perhaps say "you have a lovely family" instead of comments about an individual child...
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Yeah that’s a no win proposition. I’ve seen it before and it always looks creepy.
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lots of good input here gentlemen. in summary, the prevailing wisdom yet again, shut up fred.
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(07-26-2020, 02:50 PM)jfkbengals Wrote: Perhaps say "you have a lovely family" instead of comments about an individual child...
Not bad, but what if the wife and brother look like they rolled down cheese grater mountain? Wouldn't that be a lie?
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I'd say it's more appropriate than saying, Looks like your daughter fell from the ugly tree and hit every branch.
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(07-30-2020, 02:53 PM)HarleyDog Wrote: Not bad, but what if the wife and brother look like they rolled down cheese grater mountain? Wouldn't that be a lie?
Not necessarily. Some people are into that sort of thing...
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(07-26-2020, 11:44 AM)CKwi88 Wrote: I imagine its just the nuance of language that is lost when saying something via text rather than via speech.
Or maybe the nipple clamps in my profile photo?
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