Parenting and Lying

[*Wyche'sWarrior*]

(04-25-2016, 07:11 PM)Benton Wrote: Depends on the age. Mostly, I tell the truth.

But, I never skipped classes to get high. I did drink in class, but I've never been asked that one. I don't go into every detail (especially when it comes to promiscuity in high school), but it's important to be honest about the dumb decisions you've made. If you don't your kid is going to realize he can't talk to you about it.

Think about it: you hook up with a girl and your junk smells like bok choy. Do you talk to your parent (who lied and said they never had sex until marriage) or do you talk to your buddy (who lied about ever hooking up with a chick and only knows what he knows from porn and the internet)? I was lucky, my parents were fairly honest with me about the things they had and hadn't done in their life. So when I had a problem, if it was something they'd experienced, I talked to them about it. If they hadn't, I didn't always.

But, like I said, that depends on the age. If it's something I don't think they're ready to talk about, I tell them to ask me when they're older.

(04-25-2016, 07:55 PM)Awful Llama Wrote: Then later they ask their Uncle Ted about you when you were a teenager, and Uncle Ted busts a gut telling them how high you were most of your teenage years and all your credibility with them goes right about the window.

If they're old enough to ask about getting high and cutting class, they're old enough to hear the truth.  Use it as a teaching moment instead of trying to cover your ass.  Lies always come back to bite you, so fess up and try to make a negative a positive.  My .02.

Exactly right gentlemen.....and if those questions are asked, and I give them the correct answers, I will ALSO warn them of the pitfalls and the bad consequences I faced as a result of some of those decisions.  Nothing like speaking from experience to sell a point.  

Now as for Santa and the like, no way am I robbing my preschoolers of the joys of childhood, nor am I going against my assertion that we were wrasslin'....