How do you explain to a child the difference?

[Benton]

When I was growing up, my parents taught me to respect the cops, but stick to your rights. Don't let them search your vehicle, don't talk to them until a parent has been contacted, etc.

These days, I tell my kids to respect the police, ask for an adult/another officer to be called and then do whatever they say. Rights are kind of out the window at this point. Too often police are using 'well, he wouldn't comply with a search of his vehicle, so I found probable cause.'