02-23-2016, 03:11 AM
Ok, so I'm not sure I would describe a situation I had with my neighbor earlier tonight as a "dispute" or anything hostile like that. Perhaps an encounter would be a better word choice. Anyhoo, after I've had time to think about it it strikes me even more odd than it did initially and I really would like to get your guy's thought on it.
A quick up setup: So, I got home from work today at a little after 10. I decided to do some stuff around the house (dishes, straightening up, etc) before I settle in to watch some tube or mess around online. While I'm doing this I decide to listen to some tunes. Specifically Pandora, through a soundbar at about half volume. Not an elaborate stereo setup, or surround system. A soundbar, turned up about halfway, in my house. (Recap: I'm in my home, not an apartment. All the windows are closed. It's 10-ish.)
So at about 11:15 my doorbell rings. I was actually shaving and it took me a second to see who the hell is about my door. It's my neighbor. I answer, and say something simple like "hey, what's up". Here is his reply. "We can hear your music." (Not anything like prefacing it with "is there anyway you can turn it down, or sorry to be a bother but...". Just "we can hear your music" and it says really shittily.
It caught me totally off guard as it never even occurred to me that it was too loud and he seems all kinds of rude. But no biggie, I guess. I felt kind of bad about it and said something like "Oh, my bad. I'll turn it down. Sorry, I didn't realize it was that loud."
All he said to that was "our bedrooms are right there (points to his house)" and then he just walks away. No, "thanks". Or "appreciate it" or anything like that. Not even a smile or anything to make it seem like a cordial exchange.
So anyway after thinking about it more and more it's got me stewing and I want some feedback. It just strikes me as so dickish.
A couple other quick things: 1.) I've lived in this house for 10 years and never had anyone complain about noise. If anything I'm one of the more quiet neighbors. Never have any big parties, don't rev up my car or motorcycle. The guy that lived there before for 9 of those 10 years never once said anything about anything. 2.) The guy who is my current neighbor has been there less than year. He's also a 25 year old kid. Not that really matters a ton, but it makes it all the more strange. Right after he moved in his dad decided to mow part of my front yard (our front yards are connected) and ended up putting a huge divot in my yard from his riding mower getting stuck on the water hookup. I never said a peep and when the old man mentioned it I told not to worry about it at all.
I'm not going to do anything or say anything else. And maybe he comes over in the future to smooth things over or clarify or something. And maybe I'm being overly sensitive and nothing needs to be said and this is no biggie.
But there is no possible way my music was that loud. I know because when I have it on at that volume when my windows are open during the spring or summer you can barely hear it outside on my porch. I don't doubt he heard it, but it's not like it was cranked or I was going out of my way to be a inconsiderate prick. I was listening to music, in the privacy of my own home on a freaking soundbar, at 10:30 at night.
If I'm the neighbor I probably don't bust balls for something like that before the local news is even over. I don't do if it's been under an hour either. And if for some reason I really wanted to say something (I wouldn't) I would go out of my way to be polite about it. "Hey, sorry"... or "Don't mean to be a pain but..." or "Is there any way you could..." Something like that.
Guy just seemed like a total asshole. I pay all this money a year in property taxes to own my home, I always have my yard well maintained and try to be respectful of everyone, and I can't even listen to Pandora at 10 o'clock at night on a soundbar without being made to feel like an asshole. Wtf? He had to faintly hear it. I've honestly heard twice the volume when I lived in apartments and I never said one peep.
I can't just can't believe he came over. And I really can't believe he was that big of a dick about it.
A quick up setup: So, I got home from work today at a little after 10. I decided to do some stuff around the house (dishes, straightening up, etc) before I settle in to watch some tube or mess around online. While I'm doing this I decide to listen to some tunes. Specifically Pandora, through a soundbar at about half volume. Not an elaborate stereo setup, or surround system. A soundbar, turned up about halfway, in my house. (Recap: I'm in my home, not an apartment. All the windows are closed. It's 10-ish.)
So at about 11:15 my doorbell rings. I was actually shaving and it took me a second to see who the hell is about my door. It's my neighbor. I answer, and say something simple like "hey, what's up". Here is his reply. "We can hear your music." (Not anything like prefacing it with "is there anyway you can turn it down, or sorry to be a bother but...". Just "we can hear your music" and it says really shittily.
It caught me totally off guard as it never even occurred to me that it was too loud and he seems all kinds of rude. But no biggie, I guess. I felt kind of bad about it and said something like "Oh, my bad. I'll turn it down. Sorry, I didn't realize it was that loud."
All he said to that was "our bedrooms are right there (points to his house)" and then he just walks away. No, "thanks". Or "appreciate it" or anything like that. Not even a smile or anything to make it seem like a cordial exchange.
So anyway after thinking about it more and more it's got me stewing and I want some feedback. It just strikes me as so dickish.
A couple other quick things: 1.) I've lived in this house for 10 years and never had anyone complain about noise. If anything I'm one of the more quiet neighbors. Never have any big parties, don't rev up my car or motorcycle. The guy that lived there before for 9 of those 10 years never once said anything about anything. 2.) The guy who is my current neighbor has been there less than year. He's also a 25 year old kid. Not that really matters a ton, but it makes it all the more strange. Right after he moved in his dad decided to mow part of my front yard (our front yards are connected) and ended up putting a huge divot in my yard from his riding mower getting stuck on the water hookup. I never said a peep and when the old man mentioned it I told not to worry about it at all.
I'm not going to do anything or say anything else. And maybe he comes over in the future to smooth things over or clarify or something. And maybe I'm being overly sensitive and nothing needs to be said and this is no biggie.
But there is no possible way my music was that loud. I know because when I have it on at that volume when my windows are open during the spring or summer you can barely hear it outside on my porch. I don't doubt he heard it, but it's not like it was cranked or I was going out of my way to be a inconsiderate prick. I was listening to music, in the privacy of my own home on a freaking soundbar, at 10:30 at night.
If I'm the neighbor I probably don't bust balls for something like that before the local news is even over. I don't do if it's been under an hour either. And if for some reason I really wanted to say something (I wouldn't) I would go out of my way to be polite about it. "Hey, sorry"... or "Don't mean to be a pain but..." or "Is there any way you could..." Something like that.
Guy just seemed like a total asshole. I pay all this money a year in property taxes to own my home, I always have my yard well maintained and try to be respectful of everyone, and I can't even listen to Pandora at 10 o'clock at night on a soundbar without being made to feel like an asshole. Wtf? He had to faintly hear it. I've honestly heard twice the volume when I lived in apartments and I never said one peep.
I can't just can't believe he came over. And I really can't believe he was that big of a dick about it.
