06-14-2020, 01:42 AM
(06-13-2020, 06:23 PM)bfine32 Wrote: IMO the fact that he's a cop is moot; he just seems like a shitty parent. I would approach him and explain my feelings and let him know you will report any further action.
I did not spare the discipline when bringing up my kids; however, I never put my hands on them or disciplined them when I was angry. Now a wooden spoon to the backside was a different story.
My mom always told the story of my father spanking my sister with a water hose because she kept spraying him while he was washing the car. He did it out of anger and whipped her harder than he should have. He never disciplined either one of us physically again. Now my mom.....
You're not wrong. It's still a bit intimidating when someone is an official authority figure.
My dad beat the shit out of me, and, to a lesser extent my brother. He was a dude that worked 12 hour days 5-6 days a week and was not to be messed with when he got home. His dad beat his ass even worse, and he hated him for it, which is always interesting to me. I can't bring myself to physically discipline my son. My wife thinks I'm way too easy on him, and she's likely right. He's as spoiled as they get. Don't get me wrong, I want respect, but not that way. I know what that's like and although I had a pretty good relationship with my dad when he died, things imprint. Everyone I knew that met him thought he was meaner than a drill sergeant, but in the end it benefitted me in many ways.
I work similar hours to his, but I don't want my coming home to be a threat to my son. I want him to look forward to the time he sees me, because it's limited by work hours. I'm def the fun parent that runs things for my wife, but that's just how it is.
