06-22-2016, 02:35 AM
Back out now.
It seems counterintuitive, but your situation gives off a few red flags.
1. Talking to someone else, but upset and they stop talking days later? She doesn't know what she wants, or just likes the attention you give her. If she has other prospects aside from you, she isn't going to value you as much as you value her (judging from you stating that you haven't had many relationships), which is a recipe for disaster. It won't end well. Remember, the one who holds the most power in a relationship is the one who needs the other the least.
2. The moment you told her you liked her and she turned you down, you were doomed. Any attempt to cultivate the friendship into something more will fail. She will always have an excuse/reason as to why things aren't evolving. The best that will happen is a platonic friendship, which will **** with your self respect. I wouldn't recommend it unless she was a bridge towards deeper networks/relationships with people that could help you in the future.
3. She prompted YOU to pursue YOUR dreams? Just no. The most attractive man is the one who already has his life and dream in order AND ONLY THEN takes women along for the ride if they want to come.
My Advice: Focus on loving yourself and growing as a person. Also, develop the mentality that you're the prize to be won, not her or any other woman. The most attractive man is the man who knows who he is as a person, and couldn't care less about his relationship outcomes because he knows he can always find better prospects.
It seems counterintuitive, but your situation gives off a few red flags.
1. Talking to someone else, but upset and they stop talking days later? She doesn't know what she wants, or just likes the attention you give her. If she has other prospects aside from you, she isn't going to value you as much as you value her (judging from you stating that you haven't had many relationships), which is a recipe for disaster. It won't end well. Remember, the one who holds the most power in a relationship is the one who needs the other the least.
2. The moment you told her you liked her and she turned you down, you were doomed. Any attempt to cultivate the friendship into something more will fail. She will always have an excuse/reason as to why things aren't evolving. The best that will happen is a platonic friendship, which will **** with your self respect. I wouldn't recommend it unless she was a bridge towards deeper networks/relationships with people that could help you in the future.
3. She prompted YOU to pursue YOUR dreams? Just no. The most attractive man is the one who already has his life and dream in order AND ONLY THEN takes women along for the ride if they want to come.
My Advice: Focus on loving yourself and growing as a person. Also, develop the mentality that you're the prize to be won, not her or any other woman. The most attractive man is the man who knows who he is as a person, and couldn't care less about his relationship outcomes because he knows he can always find better prospects.
