(02-22-2018, 06:26 PM)BFritz21 Wrote: Has anyone had a friend asked to crash at their place for a night or two and then ended up staying longer and there's nothing you can do about it because they're your friend?  

My friend used to own a bar, and we'd go there all the time and I'd never pay a dime.  And I'm not saying that like I owe him or he thinks I owe him, because he did it because we were friends, but I probably ran up thousands of dollars.  He's also paid for me whenever we've ended up at random bars over the years.

Fast-forward to recently and he breaks up with his girlfriend and she kicks him out.  He texts me and asks if he can crash for the nigh, which I obviously say yes.  

However, he doesn't leave the next day or the day after, and he's not making himself at home or anything but just crashing on the couch and not eating much food or anything.  

We get to talking one night at dinner and he's talking about getting everything in his life in order and says "I should hopefully have enough money to get my own place BY THE END OF MARCH, START OF APRIL."

WHAT?!



From one night to now possibly MONTHS?

Yesterday, he said it would only be a few more weeks, but I don't know what the hell to believe.  I told him he doesn't need to pay me rent because he needs to save money, but he's also been drinking a lot.

Anyone else had a friend overstay their welcome?  What did you do?  What should I do?

(02-22-2018, 07:08 PM)SunsetBengal Wrote: Sounds like your friend might be at a low point in his life. You mention that he USED to own a bar, what does he do for a living now? His girlfriend kicked him out, and he drinks a lot.

Sounds to me like you may have to start a conversation, find out where his head is. If he's blowing money on booze, and likely eating out a lot, that's going to really inhibit his ability to save up any significant amount of money. Obviously, you don't want to hurt his feelings, so you'll likely want to pick your moment carefully. Perhaps at a time when just you and he are hanging out?

(02-22-2018, 07:22 PM)XenoMorph Wrote: Gotta show the friend some tough love.....  Unless you feel you do owe him.

Brad do you own your own place. or rent or still live with parents.  cause it makes a little difference on how to get out of the situation

especially easy if you still live at home with the folks.   "Sorry man I love you like a brother but you cant stay here anymore" 


Now if hes only been there a few days so far....  And your losing your patience there must be more. 

But best way if he is truly your friend is just be honest with him...  friends don't lie to friends to save face. that's why their friends.   so if you have issue let him know.

(02-23-2018, 01:49 PM)BengalHawk62 Wrote: Just start pulling practical jokes on him.   

Quote:When he's sleeping on your couch one night, take a bag of flour and dump it all over him, then nut punch him and yell, "Gotcha!"

Quote:When he's in the shower, take another bag of flour and open up the shower curtain and throw the whole flour bag on him.  Tap him on the nuts and yell, "Gotcha" again. 

Quote:When he's reclining on in your favorite chair, go up behind him and tip him over backwards.  Dump a bag of flour on him and tap him on the nutsack again and yell, "Gotcha".

Quote:When its your night to cook dinner for you guys, plant some really hot Ghost Peppers in his food.  As he's eating it, hand him a glass of milk filled with ExLax to ease his pain. 

(02-23-2018, 01:49 PM)BengalHawk62 Wrote: Just start pulling practical jokes on him.  When he's sleeping on your couch one night, take a bag of flour and dump it all over him, then nut punch him and yell, "Gotcha!" 
When he's in the shower, take another bag of flour and open up the shower curtain and throw the whole flour bag on him.  Tap him on the nuts and yell, "Gotcha" again. 
When he's reclining on in your favorite chair, go up behind him and tip him over backwards.  Dump a bag of flour on him and tap him on the nutsack again and yell, "Gotcha".
When its your night to cook dinner for you guys, plant some really hot Ghost Peppers in his food.  As he's eating it, hand him a glass of milk filled with ExLax to ease his pain. 



This works every time building camaraderie between you guys.  Plus, it'll make the time go faster while he's deciding on when to move out.   

(02-23-2018, 08:44 AM)HarleyDog Wrote: Meh, your caving to your inconvenience to easily. Just let the guy stay and be a friend. He will never forget what you did when he was at a low point. There might be a time when you need the same favor in your life. End of March isn't that far away if you are friends like you claim. Plus, it sounds like the guy is helping you out with some things you can't do yourself. Don't let that go unnoticed.

(02-23-2018, 01:19 PM)XenoMorph Wrote: Good luck brad...

(02-23-2018, 06:17 PM)BFritz21 Wrote: it's not like I can be like "oh, this is Jon, he's living on my couch.....  hope you don't mind!"

(02-23-2018, 06:41 PM)XenoMorph Wrote: You could....  She might say things like oh does he like to watch or he could join us...  Neither would be fun though hahahaha

(02-23-2018, 06:51 PM)BFritz21 Wrote: Or I could have Jon videotape for my website..............  

(02-23-2018, 06:17 PM)BFritz21 Wrote: I'm really hoping he's serious and he'll be gone in two weeks.

(02-26-2018, 08:56 AM)HarleyDog Wrote: This is where wives come in handy. If you were married, I guarantee you wouldn’t be in this situation, lol.

(02-23-2018, 06:17 PM)BFritz21 Wrote: It's just that I have no privacy or anything.  Example, I had a babe that I wanted to bring home the other night but can't because she knew he'd be in the next room and would be hearing everything and it's just not what a girl wants.  I also have another girl that wants to hang out but it's not like I can be like "oh, this is Jon, he's living on my couch.....  hope you don't mind!"

(02-26-2018, 03:42 PM)Sabretooth Wrote: This is where door locks between rooms and a volume control on the stereo are handy

(02-26-2018, 05:07 PM)BFritz21 Wrote: I can close the door and he’d never creep but it’s still just the whole thing that would freak a babe out!