03-10-2016, 11:28 PM
A little bit of background. My father, and I used the term lightly, left before I was born. Before my daughter was born I tried to find him just to find out if there were any genetic issues I should be watching for with my new child. Although I was unsuccessful in getting any info from him I did learn through a distant relation that he had another son and a daughter with a different woman.
Fast forward 19 years. My wife was asking what my last name would have been if I had been given my sperm donors name and it got me thinking. I did a few people searches and found possible relatives of his that were the right age to be my brother and sister so I decided to look them up on Facebook.
Three nights ago my wife (I was too chicken) sent him a message asking what his father's name was. The next night we got a response. Obviously he was cautious not knowing why she was asking so she told him. After about an hour of back and forth on fb he asked if he could call. She answered (again I was too chicken) and talked to him for a few minutes before I could work up the nerve to talk to him. After knowing of them for nearly 20 years I was finally able to talk to my brother!
He of course had no idea I existed but it turns out they had lived most of their lives only 50 miles from me. He currently lives in Georgia but we both agreed it would not be the last conversation we would have and that we would try to meet up sometime soon.
Although I have yet to hear from my sister, my new found brother has talked to her about me and I am hoping to hear from her as well in the near future.
Fast forward 19 years. My wife was asking what my last name would have been if I had been given my sperm donors name and it got me thinking. I did a few people searches and found possible relatives of his that were the right age to be my brother and sister so I decided to look them up on Facebook.
Three nights ago my wife (I was too chicken) sent him a message asking what his father's name was. The next night we got a response. Obviously he was cautious not knowing why she was asking so she told him. After about an hour of back and forth on fb he asked if he could call. She answered (again I was too chicken) and talked to him for a few minutes before I could work up the nerve to talk to him. After knowing of them for nearly 20 years I was finally able to talk to my brother!
He of course had no idea I existed but it turns out they had lived most of their lives only 50 miles from me. He currently lives in Georgia but we both agreed it would not be the last conversation we would have and that we would try to meet up sometime soon.
Although I have yet to hear from my sister, my new found brother has talked to her about me and I am hoping to hear from her as well in the near future.
