How Do I Reach Out To Someone To Help Him?

[BFritz21]

OK, so someone seriously needs our help.

He sends me the same messages on my website daily and they all just accuse me of incest because I live with my sister (and her husband), says she's a dirty girl (woman), and says things like I perform acts on Donald Trump. Also has mentioned my mom a few times, which is also just stupid.

They were stupid the first time and they get stupider every time. And to be so unoriginal that he keeps repeating the same stupid messages is just sad.

I feel like he has to be miserable in life if he gets enjoyment out of sending me stupid messages that I don't even have to open my website to delete and that don't take up more than 3 seconds of my day.

I know where he's from, so how do I help him? Do I go the lengths to find him in real life and try and tell him that there's ways to find meaning in life other than sending me stupid messages that don't bother me in the least bit?

I feel like he probably lives with his parents and has no job and no friends because why else would he spend so much time trying to (I really don't know what he's trying to do) bother(?) me when he knows it doesn't bother me in the least bit?

[BFritz21]

Actually, to make him even stupider, I don't really live with my sister and her family: I live in an apartment built off the side of their place, which was originally my brother's place until he had too many kids.

[FormerlyBengalRugby]

Sometimes people have to hit rock bottom before they seek help. Providing it before they seek it is often less successful.

I understand you are more in the public eye than many, but maybe the best thing you can do is let him rage against the sun until he is ready to accept kindness extended his way.

Good on you for the kind heart, but do not let a drowning man drag you down with him.

Try not to have/post unkind thoughts of him, lest people judge you unfairly as well my friend.

Things have a way of working out, as you are living proof.

[BFritz21]

(12-02-2024, 07:36 PM)FormerlyBengalRugby Wrote: Sometimes people have to hit rock bottom before they seek help. Providing it before they seek it is often less successful.

I understand you are more in the public eye than many, but maybe the best thing you can do is let him rage against the sun until he is ready to accept kindness extended his way.

Good on you for the kind heart, but do not let a drowning man drag you down with him.

Try not to have/post unkind thoughts of him, lest people judge you unfairly as well my friend.

Things have a way of working out, as you are living proof.

Thanks for the advice and insight on the situation.

Like you said, I shouldn't judge because I don't know what he's going through. That's actually one of the main points in my presentation. Thanks for the reminder.

I guess I should just let him keep lashing out because it makes him feel validated in some way.

[FormerlyBengalRugby]

I work in public health and get treated like crap on the daily.

Sometimes we do not know what the other side is dealing with, or what they are enduring that makes them treat us the way they do.

You are doing great work, do not be distracted, or feeding into why this man is lashing put like he is.

Keep spreading that good!

[BFritz21]

(12-02-2024, 10:19 PM)FormerlyBengalRugby Wrote: I work in public health and get treated like crap on the daily.

Sometimes we do not know what the other side is dealing with, or what they are enduring that makes them treat us the way they do.

You are doing great work, do not be distracted, or feeding into why this man is lashing put like he is.

Keep spreading  that good!

I can't even imagine how much hell that must be.

Keep up your good work too brother!

[FormerlyBengalRugby]

(12-02-2024, 10:31 PM)BFritz21 Wrote: I can't even imagine how much hell that must be.

Keep up your good work too brother!

When you work with the public, it is what it is.

Never forget what they may be facing at home, nor your personal mission of being their beacon, Brad.

Great work, bud!

[BFritz21]

(12-02-2024, 10:35 PM)FormerlyBengalRugby Wrote: When you work with the public, it is what it is.

Never forget what they may be facing at home, nor your personal mission of being their beacon, Brad.

Great work, bud!

I was on my way home from presenting to health classes at a school up in Cincinnati and I saw he sent me another message. 

I didn't open it but I saw the first few words and it was "does your sister (censored)," which he has sent me at least five times before and, like I said, it's just as stupid this time and it doesn't occupy any of my time.

I'm thinking he is likely a special needs guy. That's legitimately the only explanation for why he'd keep sending messages when he knows I don't even open them and, even if I did, they wouldn't bother me in the least bit.

[BFritz21]

(12-02-2024, 10:35 PM)FormerlyBengalRugby Wrote: When you work with the public, it is what it is.

Never forget what they may be facing at home, nor your personal mission of being their beacon, Brad.

Great work, bud!

I was just looking at my message history and realized that this has been going on for almost two years. 

How pathetic can a person's life be that they constantly send me messages when I don't read them or even open them?

What was he thinking? "I'm going to take the time out of my day to send this person the same messages so he'll be upset?" 

1 Who the hell would care? 2 He's taking time out of his day when it takes no time out of my day, so I'm winning here. 3 like I asked before, what's his end goal? Does he think that the same lame messages day after day that I don't read are going to make me quit this site or close my own?