05-12-2016, 05:54 PM
(05-12-2016, 05:21 PM)StLucieBengal Wrote: Ok. Is it 1 bully or a group who is bullying?
I would ask them what they tried already and then we would go through other solutions to their problems. The key is to get them to problem solve. Not for us to save the day. At some point parents will step in to protect their kids, I just feel like we should be pushing for them to win their battles. That's why we guide them. Now I have girls so it's different than it would be with boys.
Let's say it's one of your daughters being bullied by one girl who is bigger, older and stronger. Let's say your daughter stands her ground, but suffers a severe beating as a result.
In this scenario, let's say the bully has a history of this and has been in trouble many times in the past. And, let's say that even after your daughter stood her ground, the bully keeps picking on her every day at school. What course of action do you take?
BTW, this is more about the 'approach' you've talked about taking, than you yourself. So, it's not a personal thing with you. While I've seen the 'stand up and fight back' approach work at times, I've also seen it make matters much worse for the kid being bullied. This is why, when I hear blanket statements like 'kids are soft' or 'can't take a punch'...well, it's just not that simplistic.
