05-12-2016, 07:22 PM
(05-12-2016, 05:54 PM)Bengalholic Wrote: Let's say it's one of your daughters being bullied by one girl who is bigger, older and stronger. Let's say your daughter stands her ground, but suffers a severe beating as a result.
In this scenario, let's say the bully has a history of this and has been in trouble many times in the past. And, let's say that even after your daughter stood her ground, the bully keeps picking on her every day at school. What course of action do you take?
BTW, this is more about the 'approach' you've talked about taking, than you yourself. So, it's not a personal thing with you. While I've seen the 'stand up and fight back' approach work at times, I've also seen it make matters much worse for the kid being bullied. This is why, when I hear blanket statements like 'kids are soft' or 'can't take a punch'...well, it's just not that simplistic.
It's ok man. I can discuss things without it being a personal insult. Where I draw the line is when someone offers to have sex with my kid.
I would encourage other ways to shame the bully . She couldn't succeed in a physical fight so I would encourage ways to embarrass the bully. Kids are sensitive and you can make th self conscience relatively easy. I would encourage her to offensive in this manner. Just takes one embarrassing moment to sidetrack a bully and turn the tables.
I would encourage out of the box thinking.... Once again the goal isn't to necessarily win... It's to problem solve and know you can rely on yourself to work through problems. This is why I think being bullied isn't necessarily a bad thing.... No one wants to see their kids hurt, but they also need to know they can pull themselves back up. I hope you can see where I am coming from on learning the lessons. This is a great opportunity to learn a valuable life lesson.
