05-18-2016, 06:43 PM
(05-12-2016, 07:22 PM)StLucieBengal Wrote: It's ok man. I can discuss things without it being a personal insult. Where I draw the line is when someone offers to have sex with my kid.
If you can discuss things without it being a personal insult then why did you complain about me "dragging your family" into this when I asked you the exact same question?
Quote:I would encourage other ways to shame the bully . She couldn't succeed in a physical fight so I would encourage ways to embarrass the bully. Kids are sensitive and you can make th self conscience relatively easy. I would encourage her to offensive in this manner. Just takes one embarrassing moment to sidetrack a bully and turn the tables.
I would encourage out of the box thinking.... Once again the goal isn't to necessarily win... It's to problem solve and know you can rely on yourself to work through problems. This is why I think being bullied isn't necessarily a bad thing.... No one wants to see their kids hurt, but they also need to know they can pull themselves back up. I hope you can see where I am coming from on learning the lessons. This is a great opportunity to learn a valuable life lesson.
In this hypothetical scenario, I'm going to assume you are bigger and stronger than your daughter's imaginary bully. Why don't you use the tried and true method you endorsed earlier; punch your daughter's bully in the mouth? That would surely stop it. But, you wouldn't do that because that's stupid. Even you can recognize the stupidity of that plan.
Your above advice is awful. You're helping your daughter "brainstorm" ways to attack her bully's self esteem? You're teaching her a way to bully her bully. If your daughter already came home bloodied and beaten once, embarrassing her bully is probably a good way to get her bloodied and beaten again.
My daughter's elementary school has an anti-bullying program they teach the kids. They don't teach the kids to not tell an adult. They don't teach the kids violence is the solution. The don't teach the kids to attack each other's self-esteem. Everything you recommend, they don't.
The teachers and school administrators are in charge of discipline, not the children. The schools have systems in place for discipline problems. Teaching children to utilize their resources prepares them for the real world as adults. Because if your daughter has a problem with a co-worker she could attack her co-worker self esteem issues or punch her in the mouth or she could discuss the problem with her co-worker or HR. Which do you think would work better?
