07-03-2015, 08:28 PM
(07-02-2015, 01:35 PM)Beaker Wrote: I have one tip for a successful marriage:
1. Pick your battles.
90% of the crap she wants to "discuss" (i.e. argue about or get her way), I really don't care about anyway. It doesn't matter to me what color throw pillows we get, or whether or not we need sconces in the hallway. If I let her have her way on most of the stuff she wants (which don't matter to me), then when I really do want something, she thinks to herself "he usually lets me have my way, this must really be important to him, ok, I'll let him have it". She thinks she is controlling most of the decisions and letting me have a few things to keep me happy, when in reality I get the things I want plus I don't have to listen to the bitching because I didn't let her have the things I don't care about anyway. Simple.
I so live by this same thing.... Thankfully I have someone who isn't selfish. My ex wife was a different story.
