Joe Mixon or Dalvin Cook?

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(04-28-2017, 05:13 PM)OrlandoBengal Wrote: What about the situation do you know he regrets?  Does he regret it because he greatly injured another human being?  Does he regret using homophobic language towards another human being?  Does he regret the embarrassment caused to him, his family, the university?  Or does he regret the fact that it hurt his draft stock, that it cost him money?  Because yes, I am sure he has regrets, but not all regrets are equal.

When I was in college, I did an internship at the Ohio State House.  There was a committee hearing that I sat in on to discuss a proposed bill for funding of shelters for abused women and children.  One of the witnesses was a trained psychologist who ran a center somewhere around Cleveland.  One of the state reps from Dayton brought up the "stress" that a man would feel if the woman were to leave with his children and he did not know where they were and what if the abuse really wasn't abuse, but somehow retaliation for things she had done to him.  I will never forget her response.  She said that when you are discussing things like the abuse of women and children, most people will be horrified by it.  They will have a visceral reaction, wanting some sort of punishment for the abuser.  Then there are those who try to find ways to justify the actions, to make it seem like they are not as bad as you might imagine.  According to her professional opinion, those are the abusers in the room.  The guys who maybe have slapped their wife a time or two.  That has always stuck with me.

I'm not saying that anyone here is an abuser, or has ever hit a woman.  I do find it repulsive though that there are so many who come to his defense.  Especially when this is a person we don't even personally know.  We don't know that he is a "good guy", except for this incident.  For all we know he regularly beats his girlfriend, his mother.  We know that he doesn't have a problem picking on women, picking on those who are smaller and less physically intimidating that he is.  And there are those who quickly come to his defense simply because he can run a football. 

I hear O.J. is up for parole soon.  Perhaps they can find a spot on the coaching staff for him?

First of all, I haven't justified anything. I think what happened is disgusting. No excuse for that ever. It is NOT OK what he did.


But Isn't it speculation on both sides? Speculation that he is definitively a terrible person to the core for a single mistake. Speculation that he is remorseful for the wrong reasons. Speculation that he isn't remorseful at all. All speculation. Who's right? Who's wrong? Who knows?

One thing I know for sure is that People get "moral high road" confused because Not being able to forgive is, in fact, morally wrong.