07-24-2018, 01:04 AM
(07-24-2018, 12:46 AM)Nately120 Wrote: There is a sort of perverted honor in "defending a lady" that is still held in regard, particular when alcohol is involved. Another fun story, another friend of mine, this one is about 6'4 and 400lbs, has a sister and the three of us were having a few drinks years ago and she presented a hypothetical asking if he'd confront someone who was saying some not nice things about her. The dialog went something like this:
HIM - No, why would I? Who cares what some drunk idiot thinks?
HER - So you wouldn't defend my honor?
HIM - IF I do confront him two things could happen. One, I kick his ass, lose my job, and then go to jail. Two, he kicks my ass, I lose my job, and maybe go to jail.
ME - Actually three, you kick his ass and he shoots or stabs you for kicking his ass. If someone your size is coming after me I'd shoot first and live to see what a jury thinks.
Again, she isn't a bad person, but she was just ingrained in that sort of "defense via offense" and barroom honor culture and we weren't. Thankfully my days of near confrontation ended when the college-era days of actually going out and drinking were behind me after I completely wised up. I'd say my most noteworthy moment was when the ex of my gf at the time was at the same bar as I was and he seemed like he was pissed and wanted to fight me. I stayed seated and shrugged and said "Can't you just find someone else?" and he seemed genuinely taken aback by that response.
Ida know, maybe if I hadn't spent my whole life being 5'10 and about 160lbs or so at my most fit I would have had more of an affinity for fighting people. Ok side rant over, back to people starting fights, getting in fights, and then being like "holy crap, I gotta kill this maniac!"
Very true. I'm 6"01" and over 200 lbs. I've literally never started a fight in my life outside of 7th grade. There is this, "defend the woman" mentality that goes way beyond actually defending a woman. Defend a woman from physical violence, all day. Defend her with physical violence from some idiot talking shit, hell no. This is the crux of the thread btw, if the boyfriend had come out and told the asshole off, with as fragrant a vocabulary as he chose to employ, he'd still be alive. Like I said, just one adult out of three acting like an actual adult and no one dies.
