PnR Decorum and suspensions

[Benton]

(07-17-2017, 05:09 AM)treee Wrote: I think what would really help is to remember what the point of the subforum even is.

It is not to be an echo chamber, where only affirmation exists.

It is not to be a battle ground, where we seek to debase those who disagree with us.

It is an opportunity to share with each other our viewpoints, experiences, and knowledge. I think every poster here has the ability to add value to a conversation.  It should be our ideal and shared goal to be better off from our conversations. If we had this perspective, then threads like these wouldn't be necessary.

Or we could all just try to be inflammatory as possible and see how far we can push the integrity of the CoC for the fun of it. That's always an option.

(07-17-2017, 12:39 PM)Belsnickel Wrote: My wife got into an argument on Facebook, yesterday. She isn't an internet warrior and she wears her emotions on her sleeve and so it really got to her when people started getting inflammatory. I gave her some advice that I utilize here and it is a very helpful thing: walk away. She was tempted to stoop to their level, but she isn't that type of person. I try not to be, but sometimes succumb. The main thing, though, is that if someone says something that gets your hackles up it is often best to just stop looking at the thread.

I do it all the time. I get frustrated with certain posters that continually twist words or logic and you can tell by their responses that they are reading what they want to read from your post. When I feel myself get to the point that I don't know if I can respond without calling them a derogatory name, I stop posting in the thread for a while. If the thread continues on I may check it in a day or two and respond to other people, but I will often ignore the post that go me to that point. We spend so much time on here with the mentality that we must win the argument that this can be a hard thing to do. Most of us in here have that "must have the last word" mentality whether we would like to admit it or not. Sometimes, though, it is best to step back from that.

Kudos for both of you. Sound advice and outlook.